{"id":253,"date":"2016-09-01T00:00:16","date_gmt":"2016-09-01T00:00:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/onthemovenow.com\/blog\/?p=253"},"modified":"2016-09-01T00:00:16","modified_gmt":"2016-09-01T00:00:16","slug":"you-cant-have-that-its-mine","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/onthemovenow.com\/blog\/you-cant-have-that-its-mine\/","title":{"rendered":"You Can’t Have That! It’s Mine!"},"content":{"rendered":"
Deciding who gets what from the family estate is a conversation few people ever want to have.<\/strong><\/em>
\nMany parents simply choose to ignore the whole question, and leave it to their children to figure out how to settle things after they\u2019re gone. (Bad idea.)Leaving your family\u00a0the task of dividing your estate\u00a0forces them to make difficult decisions when they are least able to do it.\u00a0<\/strong><\/em>
\nAdult children think they don\u2019t need to talk about who is going to get what, because they believe everyone will be calm, level-headed and generous when the time comes to make those decisions.\u00a0(They won\u2019t.)<\/em><\/p>\n

That\u2019s why sitting down now when parents and adult children can discuss it together is critically important.<\/strong><\/em>
\nIf there are disagreements, better to find out\u00a0now<\/em>. That way, you\u2019ll have the time and clear-thinking to work things out. Not true if you wait.\u00a0So don\u2019t put it off!<\/em><\/p>\n

Here are some suggestions on what you might say to your children, parents, and\/or siblings to get your conversation started:<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

If you\u2019re a parent, speaking to your adult children<\/em><\/strong>:<\/em>\u00a0I want to make sure that you and your siblings continue to have a good relationship after I\u2019m gone, so let’s\u00a0talk about deciding\u00a0who gets what\u00a0now.<\/em><\/p>\n

If you\u2019re one of the children speaking to a parent<\/em><\/strong>: \u00a0I\u2019ve seen families break up when siblings had to make decisions about what to do with their parents\u2019 stuff.\u00a0I think it would be good for all of us if we could discuss our wishes for the future. Making sure we\u2019re all on the same page will make it easier for everyone.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re a sibling<\/em><\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 who wants to discuss it with another sibling<\/strong>:\u00a0<\/em>I\u2019d like to find out if you have any ideas or feelings about mom and dad\u2019s estate. I know it seems premature, but I think it will be\u00a0better to find out where we are now \u2013 so we\u00a0avoid\u00a0disagreements in the future.<\/p>\n

\u00a0When you\u2019re ready to start\u00a0downsizing your home, or if you need help distributing items in an estate, I\u2019m here.<\/em><\/strong>
\nHere\u2019s something you may find unlikely, but it\u2019s true: \u00a0When you give yourself sufficient time to downsize, it can actually be a very joyful experience! \u00a0\u00a0Please contact me,\u00a0maria@onthemovenow.com<\/a>\u00a0or call 650 740 4911 if you\u2019d like more information. I look forward to helping you!<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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