{"id":217,"date":"2015-05-01T00:00:13","date_gmt":"2015-05-01T00:00:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/onthemovenow.com\/blog\/?p=217"},"modified":"2015-05-01T00:00:13","modified_gmt":"2015-05-01T00:00:13","slug":"youre-ready-to-downsize-but-your-partner-isnt-now-what","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/onthemovenow.com\/blog\/youre-ready-to-downsize-but-your-partner-isnt-now-what\/","title":{"rendered":"You’re ready to downsize, but your partner isn’t. \u00a0Now what?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\u201cI keep telling my husband that we need to clear out the garage,\u201d Denise told me. \u201cBut he just gives me this blank stare. He wants to hold on to everything and I’m ready to let stuff go .\u00a0\u00a0Can you help?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cOf course,\u201d I told her. \u201cYou just need to keep a few things in mind.\u201d<\/p>\n

1. Stick to your own stuff.<\/strong>
\nDenise thought she had to get her husband to get rid of\u00a0his<\/em>\u00a0stuff, because he’s a collector. But the truth was, a lot of what was in her garage were boxes of things she hadn\u2019t looked at for years. It\u2019s easy to see what\u00a0someone has; \u00a0harder to recognize what you\u2019re holding on to that you no longer need or use. When she looked closer, Denise saw that a lot of what was cluttering her garage was\u00a0hers<\/em>.<\/p>\n

2.\u00a0<\/strong>Ask yourself what purpose it is serving\u00a0now<\/em>.\u00a0<\/strong>
\nDenise had \u00a0many boxes filled with of research material from her college days. When she realized that she could find the same information on the internet, she realized she really didn’t need them anymore.<\/p>\n

3.\u00a0Be easy with yourself.<\/strong>
\nLetting go of things you\u2019ve held for a long time can be an emotional process. Reward yourself for the progress you make, and don\u2019t beat yourself up when you’re not ready. As we were going through her garage, Denise told me she was especially appreciative that I never made her feel bad for wanting to hold on to something.<\/p>\n

4.\u00a0<\/strong>Make your own decisions.\u00a0<\/strong>
\nSomeone else may have opinions about what you decide to keep and\/or let go of.\u00a0It\u2019s good to be open to input, but ultimately, it\u2019s your stuff. You have to live with it, or without it.\u00a0It’s your decision what to do with it.<\/p>\n

5.\u00a0<\/strong>Think of it as an on-going process.<\/strong>
\nRemember: You didn\u2019t amass all your things in a day or weekend. And you likely won\u2019t be able to pare down that quickly, either. You\u2019ll probably want to spend some concentrated time downsizing at the beginning. But once you make it a habit, you\u2019ll see that moving things along becomes easier and easier to do.<\/p>\n

After working together to clear out her garage, and then her house, Denise is reveling in how much more space and time she has. \u201cI used to spend so much time reorganizing just so new things would fit. Now, \u00a0I can see what I have \u2013 and I end up buying a lot less!\u201d<\/p>\n

And what about her husband?<\/p>\n

\u201cHe still has his stuff,\u201d she says. \u201cBut now that I\u2019ve created space for myself, I really don\u2019t mind.\u201d<\/p>\n

Would you like more space, time and serenity in your life? I can help! Call me, and let\u2019s get started!<\/p>\n

Whether you’re moving to a new house\u00a0or you’d like your present home to feel like one,\u00a0On The Move<\/strong>\u00a0can help. \u00a0Drop a note to\u00a0Maria@onthemovenow.com<\/a>\u00a0or call 650-740-4911 to find out more.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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